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Although the idea of ​​caring for children and elderly fathers at the same time may seem unspeakable, more than half of the Americans in their 1940s are called caregivers from Shatira.

While the height of this challenge is often necessary, it can take a long and effort, which affects the health of the person allocated to the care of others.

One recent study found that caring for the generation of sandwich report more mental health problems than others and that those who spent more than 20 hours per week in care tasks have rates faster than physical decrease.

“Family care providers suffer from many nights without sleep,” Pamela D WilsonI told MS, an expert and defender of the provision of care, health. “This lack of sleep can lead to a physical exhaustion, which can negatively affect the mind and decision -making.”

Sometimes, it is clear that the career you approach does not work well, while in other cases, you may not be sure how they commit. Either way, watching someone who is interested in parents and children can let you be wondering about the best ways to support them.

For this reason health I asked about the current Sandwich sponsorships about what others can do to raise their morale and make life a little easier. Here are their most important advice.

My 72 -year -old mother, Amol Jenger, recently moved with him, his wife and her three children. His mother has Alzheimer’s and dementia, and her needs differ from day to day.

Adherence to scheduled events can be unexpected, so it is more appreciated when friends and family are flexible. “My mom is not bad as we can still plan things, but there are times when it is necessary for an unplanned time with my mother,” said 43 -year -old.

Drew Mayer, 49, said that he sometimes has to cancel the plans. He is the main financial provider of his wife and two children, and he has an additional responsibility represented in his mother’s care, who lives with Alzheimer’s disease.

Nevertheless, Mayer hopes that social calls will continue. “Since time can be absorbed with the care of others, the social time outside the responsibilities is a bonus,” Mayer said.

Over the past four years, the 90 -year -old Lori Gasparete’s father has lived with her, her husband and two daughters, 14 and 10 years. The 50 -year -old balance is interested in it and her children while working full -time as a store manager at Walgrens.

Although Jasberetis’s sisters and her husband are rising to take care of her bed -related father, she still takes care of him at night, during the early morning, as well as on weekends.

“It can be exhausted,” said GSpiparite. “I got my share of collapse, especially when my siblings are outside the weekends with their husbands doing things, while I am cooking, cleaning, care for my father, and I try to be a mother of two daughters who need me.”

Gasparetis added that finding time for a single spending with her husband, children or sisters is the biggest challenge.

For this reason, you cite an offer to be with a friend’s father – even for only a few hours – as one of the best ways to allow the care presenter to reset. “Getting a strong support team around you is very important, whether it is to help you physically, mentally or emotionally,” said Gasparete.

Ganger, too, is estimated when “people appear” for him. “With the three children, making people help horse riding, even if the last minute is a big help,” said Janger. “I coach the youth football team in my son, and there were several times I had to deal with other coaches when I needed to help my mother, and my wife was with our daughter in her chanting. This means a lot when people got it.”

Elizabeth Wadi, 47, is the mother of three children and helps to care for her elderly parents. Currently, she helps her from her home 60 years to a living facility with the help.

With a full -time job on top of her care for care, she said that the lack of time is her greatest challenge. For this reason, you also appreciate it when people offer her help in a mission, such as searching for the pros and cons of living facilities with different help.

Wadi said that there is one warning: It is only useful when someone bears responsibility without being directed.

“If someone asks to do something or show it to help, it is understood that they take it to the finish line without a great direction from me. Otherwise, I may feel that I should do it myself,” I explained. “Once the mission downloads, I really want to forget because I have a lot of other things to be treated.”

“When someone offers the search, and they follow the way to find the best solution, this is a great help,” he added.

Mayer said that his mother’s care at the top of his other responsibilities was exhausting. He said: “My wife has taken care of most of my children’s health care, and I am like many men who are not always great in going to doctors, so the responsibility for my mother’s health care is a kind of new world to move over everything else.”

For this reason, Mayer said that he is grateful when people give advice on how to make his mother’s care easier. Some of the modern tips he appreciates? A friend of his mother told him about the automatic pill distributor “to ensure that she gets her pills and at appropriate times every day.”

The 49 -year -old Beth Witz said that hearing a friend or a family member shared the children’s care struggles and the parent has a long way. My 90 -year -old mother was diagnosed with dementia in 2020 and moved to the memory care facility in 2021.

“My sister and I are struggling with our mother,” said Witz. “The options, including financial, faced and faced us mainly, make us choose between our mother and our future contracts for our children.”

While others may not be able to solve all its struggles, just being there and admitting that its situation is comfortable.